wow....you all are so amazing. I'm so sorry to hear of everyone's losses. Now you all have me crying!! I do know that when he passed and we were working on photo coloages for the funeral, it did help a little during those first few horrible days. He was only 40 & it was a tragic incident...one that will stay with me forever....but my son was born 2 months later (we didn't know what we were having) so I feel like he is a little part of my brother, somehow someone knew I was going to loose my brother and tried to give me a piece of him back. My son was sort of an "oops" I wasn't really sure if I wanted a 2nd child.....now I know why I have him! :) anyway thank you all for your stories, your words of encouragement and support! I really love the teddy bear idea and I think I might have a flannel shirt or two in those bags which would make a great bear. I'm actually excited about making the bears! thank you all again.....I can't believe I stumbled upon such an amazing group here! you have no idea how you've all touched me and I don't even know you! (ah therapy comes in the most unknown places, huh?)