FERSID

Just because you are a quilter and you made baby quilts for the first two babies - there is NO RULE which says you MUST make one for the upcoming child.

You're right, she could become a baby factory (no insult or pun intended) - we have two very close friends who believe in large families, one just had their 11th baby and the second family is working on their 9th. "OMG!!!!!"

If you truly don't feel inclined to make another quilt, you can always purchase a gift of some other kind (I wouldn't buy a quilt made by someone else as they could take offence YOU didn't make it).

llcathey

I agree gift giving is a choice,does she appreciate what you do or say thank you,most of the time the quilts aren't even around when the child gets older so no one really notices also they can be passed down from baby to baby,

meanmom

I went to either JoAnns or Hancocks they have some cute premade quilts they sell by the yard. My niece was pregnant and it was one I never hear from. I bought the quilt using a coupon, bought the backing with another coupon and lightly quilted it. I think it took me about 2 hours including the binding. I'm not sure I even had $20 in it. They all thought I had made it.

IDquilter

Don't let anyone put a guilt trip on you. Making a quilt, no matter what the size is a lot of work. If your heart is not into a lot of work but you feel you must make one, just do the panel thing. After all a panel is a 'quilt'. I know how you feel, I have some un-grateful relatives in my family and believe me, I will no longer put my heart and soul into a project for them, they will be remembered but not on a labor intensive project.

Tweety2911

I vote to make the new baby a quilt of their own. The baby is the innocent one here. Quilter's have big hearts and I see that you do too.

alapetitechaise

Sounds like many of us are in the same boat...I really wish unmarried people would not have babies. My niece has 4 kids different fathers. I know it's a morals issue and its a free world but really! Kids deserve 2 active and supportive parents.

charlotte37830

My thought is if Mom is using one of the other quilts for the dog, none of them are going to be around for when the children get old enough to appreciate them. Personally, I would buy diapers, wipes, shampoo, etc (things that baby and only baby would need) and wait until the children are old enough to appreciate the them and then make each their own quilt. Just my two cents worth.

grandjan

You know, this may be a minority opinion but, me personally, I wouldn't make a quilt that my heart wasn't in--especially if the recipient isn't loving and appreciative. Nor do I think that the fact that you made a quilt for the first two necessarily obligates you to make quilts for all the children she ever has. It's a gift, not an obligation.

Old hen

Why would anyone feel obligated to send a gift? Gifts should come from the heart, and be something you want to do. Our society is becoming too "me" related anyway. If there's explaining to do, justify it by saying that you have started to only make one per family. Sometimes we just get too many places to send gifts, and if they're not acknowledged or appreciated, don't do it any more!

auntiehenno

Walmart has lovely blankets. You could buy perhaps a thermal one and then embellish it with name a DOB.
And, am really weary from sending gifts and never getting a thank you.